May 12, 2017

A Mother’s Day Message from Tab

Happy Mother’s Day!

I have a secret to tell you that might actually surprise you: I love raising teenagers. Don’t get me wrong, it is definitely not always unicorns and rainbows in our house but I am loving this stage of parenting with my kids.

On the top of my “I love raising teenagers” list are the spiritual conversations I get to have with my teenagers! Now typically those conversations aren’t like you would imagine. We don’t sit on our floor at night holding hands, praying and reading the Bible with the Waters Edge band playing softly in the background. No, instead our conversations happen when I take the time with our kids to talk about their life and point them toward God and His Word. Here are a few things that I have done to open up these conversations and make them feel like a normal and natural part of my parenting:

• I try to weave spiritual principles and God’s Word into our daily dialogue. When our kids have a difficult time with a friend I text them a verse about being a good friend or when they have a difficult time with a teacher, I talk to them about the spiritual principle of honoring authorities.
• I ask our kids questions…lots of questions. I try to get more specific than just, “How was your day?” I ask them questions specifically about their friends, teachers, coaches, and groups. And then I listen!
• I pray with our kids. One of my favorite things is to pray for specific things in their lives so they can see that prayer is meaningful and important.
• I utilize the time in the car for either listening to Christian music or discussing life. When I take the girls to school, sometimes I will read a verse and we will talk about it.
• I make church more than a Sunday event. Our church is a part of our lives and we talk about it throughout the week. We prioritize Sundays, volunteering, and groups. I talk about what we learned and remind them of it during the week. And we always try to share it with others through inviting.

I don’t always get this right. Sometimes, I miss a moment because I’m too busy looking at Facebook or just plain tired at the end of the day. But, mommas, I know that we can do this. There’s really nothing more important that I can do for my teenagers than this! The Bible says, “And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.” (Deut. 6:6-7)

No matter which stage of life that you find yourself in as a mom today, you can pass along spiritual guidance to your kids through simple conversations. I know you can and I want you to know…I’m cheering you on!

Tab Hodges

P.S. It would mean the world to me if you would help me pack out the house with a whole bunch of mommas on this Sunday for Mother’s Day at Waters Edge!

5 Responses

  1. Donna says:

    Beautifully said!! So important to teach and listen, listen, listen. This Mama will be at WEC this Sunday and so blessed to have her daughter and grandson there too!!

  2. Rhonda Ondrey says:

    Such Godly wisdom for all mothers & grandmothers! Thanks for sharing Tab! Can’t wait for Sunday. Love you!

  3. Shirlee Daly says:

    Would love for you to share those “friend” verses

    • Stu Hodges says:

      Sorry for the delay!

      *Proverbs 18:24 NIV A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. (I would use this if they are feeling alone…Jesus will always be there for them)

      *Proverbs 13:20 NIV He who walks with the wise grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harms. (I would use this verse to help them choose friends wisely. Show me your friends & I’ll show you your future)

      *3 John 15:13 NIV Greater Love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends. (I would use this verse to talk about being a good friend to others)

      *John 13:34 A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. (I would use this verse to talk about loving and being a good friend to others)

      *Luke 6:31 Do to others as you would like them to do to you. (I would use this to talk about how to treat others)

      *Ephesians 4:31 to 32 “31 Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. 32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” (I would use this verse to talk about forgiveness and how to treat others)

  4. Rose says:

    Love this, Tabby!

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