We recently held a staff day and invited our spouses to join to learn leadership lessons from some of our finest. Mike Hancock, our Director of Family Ministries, gave us a lesson on Conflict. Here’s his recap:
Conflict stinks! Nobody likes it, but at times it can be unavoidable. Here’s some advice I gave to our staff about how to act when dealing with difficult people in our life. During Conflict…BE A LEADER. Be the leader God has called you to be. Conflict doesn’t just go away on its own, so hit it head on with a grace-filled heart and speak the truth. Be a leader even when it’s tough. You might say, “But I don’t want to hurt their feelings.” WHY NOT? I’m not saying be mean-spirited. I’m saying be a leader. Too often I fear we hold back when it comes to speaking truth because we are afraid to hurt people. Where does that get us in the long run? The most healing thing for conflict is truth, and the truth often hurts. People deserve to hear the truth. If you speak in love, people will be given an opportunity to grow. Your motive shouldn’t be to humiliate but to help. Be a leader and let God use you.